Author CJ Sansom, writing about bullying last weekend, said hisRead more...
It’s not complicated.
Breasts: Women have them, men love them — but clearly women and men don’t think about them in the same way.
To you ladies, they’re obviously part of your body, for better or worse. Sometimes you’re proud of them, sometimes unhappy and most of you know how to use them to your advantage at least a little.
To us guys, however, your breasts are the object of something between strong interest and out-and-out obsession depending upon the guy (and the set). They make us fixate, double-take and lose our trains of thought.
The thing is, most women don’t realize that our borderline mania isn’t very complicated: we simply like boobs — a lot. And we like them in pretty much all shapes and sizes.
Women constantly ask me whether big boobs are better, why fake breasts are appealing to so many men, and what the big deal is, as if there’s a giant mystery surrounding why men are obsessed with boobs. I don’t think there’s much mystery, though, and all these questions are pretty easy to answer.
The most obvious reason boobs are a big deal is biological. To me, and to probably almost every other hetero man on the planet, breasts (and lips, and legs, and eyes, and hair, and all forms of women’s beauty) are simply naturally appealing. We’re born to like them. We see them, we appreciate them, they arouse us, and maybe we ogle a little (if we’re not well-mannered).
That said, to most men there’s something even more magical about breasts than our biological imperative to love them. I once heard a woman say that if you wanted to distract a man, simply don’t wear a bra, regardless of whether your boobs are large or small. And it’s true!