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When you fall in love, your dream is for that love to last forever. There’s nothing worse than falling head over heels for someone, only to end up heartbroken and confused about what went wrong, endlessly wondering where you went wrong and how to go back to how things used to be.
So what ARE the secrets of couples that stay together? How do their relationships stay so strong for so long?
Here are the top 20 secrets behind long lasting couples whose relationships last forever:
1. Remember to kiss hello and goodbye EVERY TIME
How sweet is it when he has to go to work extra early – but still stops by the bed to kiss you goodbye trying not to wake you up because he can’t help wanting to do it?
That little bit of extra intimate contact as you say good bye at the beginning of the day and hello at the end goes a long way, and keeps the flame of intimacy burning strong in your relationship.
2. Say “I love you” without restraint
When it comes to the 3 little words, more is always better than less. This is one phrase you can’t say too much to each other.
3. Let fights happen without turning them into world-enders
Sometimes the wrong set of circumstances hit and you and your s/o are going to fight with each other. Just because you’re mad at each other doesn’t mean you don’t love each other, and every fight doesn’t mean that the relationship is ending. Couples that go the distance can rise above petty fights and recognize what’s most important.
4. When he texts or calls you, respond to him (and hold him to the same standard)
No one likes to wait around for their significant other to text or call back. Prompt replies should be the standard, not the exception, and your priority should be keeping in touch with your partner.
5. Don’t make fun of each other
Even if you’re “just joking”, imagine how he’d feel if he heard you. The most important word to keep in mind here is respect – and keeping the respect in your relationship is crucial to it surviving.
6. Understand that every relationship comes with responsibilities
You’re not going to want to do the same thing as your partner ALL the time. Sometimes, that means doing things you really don’t want to do – like chores, or errands, or going to his stupid work party – just because you know it makes him happy.
7. Don’t be late
How many times have you gotten into a spat or a stupid fight that started because one person was annoyed the other person was late?
If you’re chronically late or unprepared, start getting ready a half hour before you normally would so you don’t upset your partner (or someone else that cares about punctuality). Plus, putting in the effort to be on time means your partner will perk up and put in the effort too.