Eisner-nominated comic book writer Alex de Campi and THR contributorRead more...
“Jealousy is nothing more than a fear of abandonment.” ~Unknown
My biggest relationship fear used to be getting dumped for another woman.
If it actually happened, it was going to be the ultimate proof of my worthlessness.
It wasn’t easy to live with that fear. When it came to conjuring up scenarios of loss and pain, I was like a rag doll in the hands of my imagination.
Even if my partner did not leave me or intend to cheat on me, the fear of being abandoned turned me into a person the man I was with no longer recognized.
It was almost as if the woman he’d met and was attracted to, who’d responded to him with passion, interest, and adoration, had turned into the nightmare girlfriend that he had read about in men’s community forums.
My fear, hiding in the closet like an imaginary monster, made me extremely jealous, paranoid, manipulative, and controlling.
It was limiting my experience of life and preventing me from truly opening my heart to my partner.